We don’t make them jump through hoops or complete arbitrary potential-girlfriend assessments. So, the next time you hear a dude tell you that you need to prove your worth as his future significant other during the “Netflix and chilling with no title” stage, please understand that just because he wants to be in you, doesn’t mean that he’s into you.
Lincoln Anthony Blades blogs daily on his site, This Is Your
No woman should be out here “trying out” to become a man’s woman, giving all of herself to a guy who doesn’t have the courage or conviction to commit to her in the most basic way.
The truth is, the dudes who proclaim the delayed benefits for women who do the most while waiting out the “talking” stage, are mostly men who just want to sleep with as many women as possible while knowing that the woman they’re with is not out there doing the same. It’s a selfish and weak ploy that men use to discourage women from weighing multiple options at once, because if that happened, she might realize that she doesn’t have to stand for the garbage ol’ boy is putting her through.
And non-cowardly adult males love the idea of being single, because it means we can do whatever the hell we want, with whomever the hell we want.
So, with that in mind, why in the world would I want a woman to be uniquely loyal to me, especially when I’m damn sure not providing that favour to her?
But, as much as I’m against comparing how love impacts different generations, there’s one thing I will give the people who cling to the assertion that dating is more difficult now.
We definitely have more stages of dating than any previous generation.
Now, that doesn’t mean that we won’t want it later on down the line, but it definitely means that if we’re not officially together, we’re single.With that said, there’s one problematic belief that I see too many dudes pushing on social media that far too many women are easily falling for.And it’s the idea that a woman must be loyal during the “talking” stage in order to prove that she’s loyal enough to take it to the next level.Thanks for helping us achieve our mission of helping everyone learn how to do anything.I’ll admit that I’ve flirted with the idea of dating multiple guys at once.