"Despite (or maybe because of) the debate regarding the legitimacy of the online sex-related discussions, one of their main characteristics was frequent commenting about the discussions’ role as a sphere for consultation and intellectual dialogue," the authors wrote.
"Defending the educational potential of the online discussions, some post authors emphasized their lack of exposure to sexual education earlier in their lives due to the sociocultural and historical circumstances in which they grew up."For some, sex was something they were never allowed to ask about; for others, it was a subject they now felt shame in bringing up, due to the pervasive belief, even among medical professionals, that sex should somehow stop mattering to someone past a certain age.
One way of reducing the weight of these difficulties is to distance the online affair from offline circumstances—for example, by refraining from exchanging personal, actual details or by imposing other limitations on the online affair.
Noting that there’s been embarrassingly little research into the sex lives of older adults, the researchers decided to explore just how these seniors are talking about sex.In his stimulating paper, "Chatting Is Not Cheating," John Portmann defends online lust and characterizes about sex; he maintains that such talking is more similar to flirting than to having a sexual affair.In reality, though, the issue of online cheating is more complex—especially when it concerns sexual activities involving actual interaction with other individuals."Thanks to this forum I came to realization that there is nothing wrong in seeking sexual fulﬁllment at older age," one such poster remarked.Another wrote, "My goodness, sex is exactly what most seniors want and deserve.
Free of those stereotypes, seniors were able to swap tips about the best time to have sex, educate themselves about the still-real risks of sexually transmitted infections, and share the sort of stories that would make a college dorm blush.