My mom, who had worked since age 12 in a difficult industry, stopped working when I was in high school.XSF paid for everything: a beautiful home, clothing, vacations, etc. He paid for half of college-I paid for the other half.I went on to borrow for grad school, pay for my own wedding & home, etc.
I want to have a preemptive conversation with Mom, saying that I think it will be more awkward for everyone if I attend.
), because they were once again dating, & she wanted him there. Since XSF has become more frail, my mom has become one of his primary supports: cooking, shopping, cleaning, etc.
He is rude to health care providers, refuses basic supports such as physical rehab, & continues to be verbally abusive to his daughter & (probably) my mom. Despite this, during a recent social event with friends, Mom characterized XSF as “a good stepfather” to my brother & me.
I grew up in a culture which actually embraces many of these qualities, & while I fled the state out of gut instinct to get the hell out of there, it was only with time & growth that I recognized that I needed to get him out of my life.
This was pretty easy to accomplish because even when living in the same house, our relationship was managed through my mom.